So... It's been a few. Today is March 22, 2012. It has been almost 3 years since Di was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. (April 29, 2009) On April 19, 2012 we will be expecting a new edition to our family. Our little girl. And when I say "our" I mean OUR. It is not just about Di and I. It's about ALL of us that have been there through this all. It is a story to share. A feel good story if you will. It is about Gail, Mark, Christopher, Audrey, Momma, Daddy, Terry, Alan, Danielle, Eric, Erin, Brent, Josh, Merritt, Carissa, Alec, Jack, Luke, Hannah, Sinclair, Garrett and all of the clan. It is about family. It is about friends. It's about the joy of life.
Di has been feeling pretty good. Her arm swells a little here and there. We try to stay on top of it so it doesn't get worse. She goes to a specialist and they do different massages and exercises to help the blood and fluid flow through her arm. She's not to happy wearing her compression sleeve but sometimes doesn't have a choice. Sometimes you just have to suck it up. They've recommended taking Yoga. Oh how I wish she would.
Anyone heard of "Nesting"? If not feel free to drop by the house. The baby's room is pretty much done. Just looking for the "right" rug to put in her room.
Everyone is asking if we have chosen a name for our baby. The answer is yes. But Di and I have decided that we won't tell anyone until her birth. It's not that we don't want people to know, it's more a situation that Di and I want something that is only ours to discuss. The last 3 years have been an open book for all to see and discuss. People were aware of everything from the day her eggs were implanted to the very day she became pregnant. It's been a group effort. But it's been weird for us, well..me anyway. We don't get to go through the pregnancy like normal people. We don't get to feel our girl kick or move around in her belly. We weren't afforded that luxury. Though we are truly lucky to be were we are. It may be kinda petty to think holding a name back is actually doing something other then being greedy or something.. But that's not what we want. We just want to have the connection with our child that is hard to do in our situation. I fear that one day I will be handed a baby that I'm not prepared for. I believe pregnancy is the ultimate preparation to having an infant. I know we will be fine. But I can't help but think about it. Think how this isn't the way Di planned it. or I planned it..It is the way it's happening though so we move forward. With a happy hart and a loving home to prepare for our blessing.
Hang in there Gail! Only a few more weeks! You too Mark. You'll get your wife back again soon! Thanks for the loaner;)
Oh! and thank you all who helped throw an awesome baby shower! Thanks to all who attended! It was great to see you all.
Clay
Baby in your own belly or not, it is hard to truly prepare for what is coming.....all the fear, joy, exhaustion and mostly a love that is indescribable. But y'all will be ready when they place her in your arms and y'all will be awesome!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your openness throughout this journey.
Clay, thank you for posting on my blog. I do remember your wife, she helped me sooo much when I was first diagnosed.
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for you two!! What a blessing after all you both have been through to now have a child. I can't beleive it ended up being the very last egg...wow! Those words give me such encouragement because if this time around for us doesn't work then we have only two embryos left which gives me a little anxiety but I'm trying to think positive thoughts.
Congratulations to you both!! I have a smile on my face and in my heart.
I loved reading that! So excited for you ALL!!! FYI- I was adopted at birth and the people who adopted me ARE my parents as much as I am the parent of the kids that I carried and gave birth to. They raised me and knew me and were there for me always- like you guys will be for your baby. :o) I think the way that you are having her is amazing and she is so lucky that she will grow up being surrounded by so much love! Congrats! Can't wait to find out her name! ~Robin
ReplyDeleteIn no way does being pregnant prepare you for actually having a baby for which you are responsible. There will be no excuses. We are all going to expect you to be the perfect parents, just like your friends and family are! All kidding aside, I think you guys might be the perfect parents.
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