still working on it!

It's been a while... Things seem to be moving slowly these days. Di has been back at work. Traveling much more because of it. She just got back from doing an event in Vail. It is nice that she has gotten back to her regular work routine. It seems "cancer" has taken a back seat to "life". I plan on going with her to the Dr. tomorrow for her check up. She wants me to be there for the whole MRI deal. But the good news is that when it is my time to get ran through the MRI machine I will have had plenty of experience between Di and my dad. It's weird. Both are some of the strongest minded people I know...but they couldn't do that damn MRI machine.. odd..

The whole gestational carrier thing has been put on hold for a little bit. Both Di and Gail have been extremely busy with work. We are trying to find a time that works well for everyone. It's not that easy.

I feel like I'm on the sideline cheering for a team...problem is it's half time and my team is loosing.... badly.... It is only one game I tell myself.

Plan is to start back up after the holidays. I'm personally looking forward to the holidays. Some time off of work will be nice. Time with the family. Eric and Riam will be in town. Gail and the kids too. Mark seems to be pussing out, seems the Drury Clan is a lot to handle for some. Understandable I guess. I know Di was overwhelmed by the sure numbers of us at first. Now I'm not sure what she would do without us. Erin for sure. She's been a great friend to Di threw all of this.

I miss my dad too.

Great News!

As many of you know. We have been working on having a Gestational Carrier "carry" our child. What some of you may not know is that we have found one. One who I have known my entire life. One who is as close to Di and I as any one. And one who we trust with our own lives...or child's life for that matter. My wonderful sister Gail! let that sync in for a few minutes....... Crazy huh?? Any one think "icky"?? (well I did for a little while)

Gail is in Dallas as we speak. Probably hanging out at the house with Di getting ready for our 2nd (we tried a couple months ago but didn't have any luck) procedure. They are probably about to leave for the hospital any minute. I will leave work about noon. As many people know, Doctors our on their own time so my guess is, if they say be there between 11:30 and noon, that the Doc will stroll in around 12:45/1pm.. It just works that way.

I want to take this opportunity to thank my sister and her husband Mark. They are making a HUGE sacrifice out of pure kindness. Not many people would choose to do this. Words can not describe the love and respect Di and I have for them and their family. I will be forever indebted to them. To say this was an easy choice or any easy decision would sell them short. How does someone decide that they WANT to do something like this?...what motivates them? Why?? No other reason then love. Love for me...love for Di....love for themselves and our whole family..There is no other way to describe it...

If you know me, you know that I am not a religious man. I believe in many things..I believe in the human spirit. I believe in doing good by all. I believe in helping when the opportunity presents itself. I believe that there IS power in doing right. I am a spiritual person. None of these beliefs prepared me for the moment it was decided that Gail would be THE ONE. That my friends is God's work. So thank you God..Thank you for blessing me and my family. Oh. And THANK YOU GAIL. I love you.

Reconstructive Surgery

We are winding down most all things considered Breast Cancer related. Friday May 14, 2010. We woke early that morning (4am) so that we could be at the hospital at 5:15am for check in. Terry and Alan made it by before she was wheeled in for her operation, which was started around 8am. The surgery lasted until around 3 or 4pm. Unfortunately the anesthesiologist didn't really listen to us wen we told her that Di gets pretty nauseous when she comes to and that we have found Amend (spelling) seems to be what works for her...She said she doesn't "use" amend and that she will take care of it...not so much. Di spend three hours in the recovery room sleeping off the nausea. By that time of night she was the only person left there. Terry and I were told to go on to the room and wait. So we did..and did some more. Finally the phone rang with a nurse on the other end telling us that Di was still in the recovery Room and may be down there for a while, and that if we wanted to see her we should come on down. Well, I had no proof that she was actually alive so I went down with Terry in tow. She was there...physically. I was satisfied and proceeded to head back to her room. They eventually brought her up. She looked pretty good all things considered.

Night 1 was uneventful. Day 1 post surgery was good until about 2am when Di woke up hysterically crying saying that her head was hurting. That was NO fun. A comedy of Nursing Errors occurred before I finally told them that "something" more had to be done. They came back with some stuff they put in her I.V and in about 20min that took care of her...thank you Lord. It wasn't pretty. After that little episode all else went well. We were able to leave Sunday about noon. She is home know and for the foreseeable future until she gets her drains out (hopefully they will come out next week).

For those that don't know, Di and I have found a "Carrier" to carrier our baby. As soon as next month we will be implanting our fertilized eggs in her "belly" in hopes to start a family.

I don't want to jinks anything else on that front so I'll update more as the process unfolds! Needless to say we are ecstatic about the possibilities and are looking forward to the future.

take care of one another folks.

The dust is settling

As each day passes we look back at the past year of our lives and think about the hardships that ended well. And I guess "well" is relative. So...it was a relatively good year...we did get through it.
Di has gone in for her check ups and seems to be recovering well. She went to Dr.Meade this morning and received her surgery date. She goes in on May 11th for her permanent implants. She is READY to get ride of the temporary fillers she has now..they are really hard and don't feel very comfortable to her. Then that will be the last of the surgery for a while. So that is good.
Di's been working from home. She was able to go to her first event in a while when she left for the Super Bowl and was gone for a week. It was good for her to get back into the swing of things. I'm sure it was nice for her being back on site working, doing what she does best.
Physically Di has been pretty good. I find myself waking up in our bed by myself a few times a week. She has trouble going to bed and staying in bed through the night. The doctors don't really know why she's not sleeping well.
Her hair is growing back! So that's exciting! Hopefully it won't take too long to grow to a good length.

We have been working on finding a "carrier" so that we can have a child. We think we have the one. As soon as we get the legal mumbo jumbo figured out then hopefully we can get the show on the road. I'll update again when I know more.

Sorry it's been a while but sometimes I get caught up in life! take care people.